Rumour has it that I’m leaving for this healthy living blogger conference thing today. Rumour also has it that there are going to be a fair amount of Canadians at this shindig. So, in hopes of making them feel more comfortable in Minneapolis (and to trick them into being my friend…), I’m taking up Canadian spelling today. I’m also going to
speak type blog in a Canadian accent.
Although, now that I think about it, I have no idea how our neighbours to the north actually speak. I’m guessing there’s lots of “eh’s” and “you betchas” and nasally accents ;) No? Yes? Help me out northern friends!
Anyways, since I’ll be meeting lots of fun and healthy and pretty bloggers this weekend, I figured today is the perfect day to post about how to make friends!
Disclaimer: I am not great at making friends. I mean – I’m nice and fun to be around (I think?) and funny (right, right??!) and cool and all that jazz but I’m an introvert and unless I’m thrown into an awkward situation or at work, I tend to stick to myself. I pretty much had Kyle and Mitchell and a handful (small handful, like baby-sized on a good day…) of girlfriends in Minneapolis so take this post with a grain of salt. Also, appreciate all of the sarcasm along with my tips ;)
Ummm…. yeah…. Now that I’ve got that embarrassing detail out of the way, please call me so we can be friends…
As you all know, I just moved to Chicago and have actually been out and about making new friends in my new city. When I mentioned how excited I was about meeting people, it seemed like many of you (at least from the comments…) also find it difficult to make friends once you’re in the working world.
Well, except for that girl Carly, she’s a friend-makin’ fool. (Love you and hope you’re having a blast in Italy!)
Since I’ve already made more friends here in Chicago than I did in Minneapolis my entire four years there, I think that I am now qualified as a friend-makin’ expert and I’m here today to share my tips ‘n’ tricks.
1. Drink. A lot. And make sure it’s in public establishments. Don’t drink alone, by yourself in your new apartment. That’s not the way to meet people, especially if your house if full of cats ;) Going to happy hours and out with coworkers and neighbours is a great way to meet new people that might turn into friends! People tend to be more social when slightly boozed up so why not take advantage of their (and your!) more outgoing self?
2. Bake delicious things full of chocolate and peanut butter and Nutella. And then give them to people you want to trick into being your friend. I know… I’m telling you to share our beloved ingredients here but hear me out. Everyone loves chocolate and peanut butter and Nutella so it’s a great way to bribe others into hanging out with you. Seriously though, try this recipe or this one or even this one and you’ll have new friends knocking on your door ;) Before handing out peanut butter treats though, check to make sure your new friends aren’t allergic. We don’t want to go killing people now… That, my friends, is not a good way to form relationships.
3. Put a smile on your face. Happy people attract happy people. Stop walking around looking at the ground or with an attitude like you have the worse life in the world (heads up, you don’t!) or with your nose in your phone! Look up, notice the scenery and smile at people you walk past. Say hello. Say good morning or top o’ the mornin’ to ya… wait, that Irish, not Canadian… You’ll probably start walking by the same people every day during your commute to work or on your way to the gym and will eventually make friends :)
4. Get uncomfortable. Sometimes you just gotta get down ‘n dirty and put yourself into uncomfortable (but still safe) situations. Yes, it is awkward to show up to a potential friend’s party alone but sometimes you just need to take the plunge. If someone invites you to a party, GO. You aren’t going to do yourself any favour in the friend department if you decline all invitations. So show up, thank your host, grab a drink and start mingling with new friends!
5. Don’t be cheap. (One of my biggest pet peeves…) Yes, it’s okay to have a budget. And yes, it’s okay to buy the cheapest thing on the menu. But, if you’re going out with friends and you agree to go to a certain bar or restaurant, then don’t complain about your tab when you get it. It’s frustrating and annoying and awkward when you’re the friend that doesn’t account for the tax with your cash and everyone else has to cover the part you didn’t pay. You’re out with friends so have fun and throw in a couple extra bucks – If it is truely extra, the server will appreciate it because – as those of us who have been servers before know – big groups aren’t easy!
So there you have it y’all! Wait… y’all isn’t Canadian either… Do you northerners say “you guys” or “peeps” or do you never venture out of your igloos because it is so cold up there??? I kid, I kid…
Now get out there and start making some new friends!
Tell me, what are your tips for making friends? Are you more outgoing or do you tend to keep to yourself? Do you have any fun Canadian sayings you can share with me?